L from Sussex, 37 asks:
I met a lovely guy and we have started seeing each other. We are a few weeks in to the relationship  and he’s started using a baby voice during foreplay which really turns me off. Is this normal? 

No it’s not. How on earth are your supposed to be aroused when a grown man talks to you like he’s a child. Next he’ll be wearing giant nappy and offering you formula in a tommy tippee cup. I sense Mummy issues.
I once met a gentleman who used seedy american lingo in the bedroom and used words like panties. It was like he was in character and completely detached from the man I was attracted too. It was contrived and he was trying way too hard. I switched off instantly and didn’t see him again.
If your new gentlemen friend isn’t impressing you in the bedroom then you must go and find someone who does. Somebody needs to put baby in the corner.
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Carla Mai is a successful fashion buyer. Her hectic life leaves her no time to find a man. That is, until the Matchmaker sets her up with a cheeky but charming man who wines and dines her late one night in her office.  Starring the beautiful Carla Mai and the strapping Peter Oh Toole.

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Wake up, shower, breakfast, school run, work, school run, kids tea, supper, TV, bed. As creatures of habit most of us rely on the daily grind, doing the same thing every day. Over and over.  I like it, but every now and again I get totally fed up with the monotony. Generally habits make us feel safe and secure, we know what’s coming next and we are comforted by that. But once in a while – about once a quarter for me –  I don’t want to know what’s coming next, I want a surprise, a change, a break from the sensible and reliable path I travel.

From what I gather from via my trusted sources, the same can be said for our bedroom antics for couples in long term relationships. Pumpage is getting predictable. Yes, it’s still fun but we follow the same routines when it comes to getting jiggy. We all know the drill and we can rely upon solid, consistently good sex with our partners doing pretty much the same thing every time. I’m not knocking it, it’s still great,  but sometimes we need to blow the lid right off the rumpy regime.

Remember folks that your long term lover will be impressed with a new manoeuvre so take inspiration from where you can.  Copy something you’ve seen in a movie or a saucy film. Say something unexpectedly filthy, wear some new, not grey underwear. Embrace the unpredictable and unexpected even if it’s out of your comfort zone. (If you decide to lure them in to the bushes at a wedding make sure that the floodlights from the marquee aren’t shining on you. You might feel like you’re in the dark but you are in fact in the spotlight, as a friend of mine realised after she took her boyfriend outside for a special  treat and inadvertently provided a live show for the rest of the wedding guests).

Sexual complacency is not a place we want to be. We must remind ourselves as our relationships mature not to get too settled before we end up wearing indoor shoes. We still need to make and effort and impress our partners with our prowess, after all, we don’t want them being tempted to have more exciting nookie with somebody else better than us. Somebody else with upgraded vigour and passion. Why be economy when you can be first class? Cast your minds back to when you first met, remember the way you made each other feel. In order to seal the courtship deal we went all out to get the prize and we need to re-engage that hunger.

So what do we do about it? I was going to discourage a knee jerk reaction to suddenly transform yourself in to a sex addicted to a porn star, but upon reflection particularly for the men, this would be like catching condcorde to utopia so if you have the energy girls then go for it. But for a more gentle approach throw in a few new moves, initiate something fun, somewhere new. This could be as simple as a teenage style pashing session against the kitchen counter while the asparagus is steaming.

Do something, anything, surprise yourself. Be the bird of paradise. You’d be amazed what you can do. Just don’t rest on your love laurels.


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Spring Cleaning, the new scene from Joybear’s latest film, Housemates, is available now to watch HERE, starring Adreena Winters and Peter Oh Toole. 

Drummer Miles is waiting for Bradley in the living room whilst Rosa tidies. He gets bored of hanging around so decides to have some fun with Rosa, who is delighted to take a break from the hoovering. Spring cleaning has never been so dirty.

Watch the explicit scene here
Watch the soft version of the trailer here.


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This is Cheryl Cole’s tattooed bot bot. Whilst it’s a lovely bottom, I’ve never seen one completely inked with art before and I’m not sure how I feel about it.

A brave move from the singer who decided to make a fu@k it list after she recovered from malaria. I would have probably gone for a threesome with Daniel Craig and Harry Styles but perhaps she’s already been there, done that. Cheryl will have to carefully pick a partner who will presumably have previous experience in the garden. A green fingered maestro, able to tackle her foliage and who will undoubtedly enjoy spending time taking her round the back.  Would a rose by any other bottom smell as sweet? Me thinks not.

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In this article today Victoria Beckham says she wants to empower women with her fashion line. The problem with this Victoria, is that in order to feel empowered by your clothes, we need to feel empowered by you first.
It’s hard to feel empowered by a role model who is clearly insecure herself. Just watch footage of her having her photo taken on the red carpet here. Every move is so contrived, you see an over rehearsed robot shuffling down the carpet, tilting it’s head back and forth, opening and closing it’s mouth like a guppy fish. How can women be empowered by this example? Being empowered means on every level  you’re completely confident about who you are, happy in your skin, just being you. This is evidence to the contrary.

It is not my intention to be a complete bitch about VB because I’m sure she’s a lovely girl and I certainly respect her for her professionalism, success and her work ethic. On a professional level she is faultless and fabulous. But on a public level she needs to work on her game. (She also needs to  know that in order to empower real women with her fashion line she needs to please make a range where a wallet doesn’t cost £350, and we can get a dress for less than £500. At least then we have a gnats chance).

To empower women I suggest she start by taking the following small steps:

1. Smile more –  even if you think you might look less attractive than you do when you keep your mouth vb smilesshut, you don’t. Confidence is attractive and the foundation for sex appeal. You are better in every way when you smile. Watching you pose as you part your lips and shut them again, and repeat over and over looks vain, self obsessed and insecure about how you think you look. YOU LOOK GOOD. You don’t need to try so hard.

2. Wear flat shoes more.

3. When you have a photo taken with your husband you don’t have to lay claim by planting a hand on him or grab him for reassurance. You don’t look empowered, you look needy.
( FYI he needs you more than you need him. You are an International Superstar, Supermum, Spice Girl and Fashion Designer. If you’re not confident about yourself then what hope is there for us?)

4. Eat a square meal.

5. Just drop the act and relax.

Then we’ll be inspired by you.

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Girls, prepare yourselves. Boys, take note. Kindness to Strangers, the third scene from Housemates is available now and it’s a visual feast. I was giddy with delight watching this because there is a sense of anticipation, romance and best of all, candles. Lots and lots of candles.

Jess meets the owner of the house who just happens to be a famous rock star. She gets home from work and follows the path of candles up the stairs to the attic. Every girls fantasy.

Watch the explicit scene now here.
Watch the soft version of the trailer here.



Many of my friends have finished having children and the interesting topic of vasectomies has been raised a few times recently. Many have already had them and some are thinking about having them. The job of procreation is done and now people want to do away with the hassle of pills, coils, injections and condoms so the boys have stepped up and had the snip. Everyone can breathe a sigh of relief and enjoy hassle free spontaneous coupling (I can’t stop using this word now – it’s so on trend) without the fear of STI’s or unwanted pregnancy for the last few years before we turn peri-menopausal and start growing chin hair. ( On a lighter note regarding ageing, fertility and the menopause, let me remind you that no matter what your age it’s never game over for party time in the pants department).

Whilst contraception is vital in preventing sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancy, once you’re in a relationship it can sometimes be a bit of a pain. First experiences are with condoms which offer great protection, and are simple, hygenic and there’s no clean up afterwards but then there’s Foreplay Interruptus. Just as you’re ready to go you have to stop, roll over, find the shag bag and put on one. Then try and pick up where you left off with the overwhelming smell of latex and spermicide to guide you back in to throes of passion. Not ideal.

We are incredibly lucky to benefit from free contraception in this country and it is absolutely necessary if you’re sexually active with new, multiple or untested partners, but most methods have a drawback or two. And this is why for those of you who’ve free-cycled all your baby things, the vasectomy is the answer. Your women have been through enough with endless trips to the doctors for check ups, pregnancies, childbirth and years of pill popping responsibilities. They are contraceptive veterans and deserve a break. And don’t start with telling them it may make your balls swell up and turn blue, or you may want to have kids with a new partner if they unexpectedly die early ( who’s 26, prettier, and desperate for your babies) . The swelling rarely happens, you can have it reversed and your younger partner will have her hands full playing step mother – there’s no way she’ll want more children ( and as if you’re going to find someone prettier).

Boys – it’s time to man up. It takes 15 minutes and you leave with a plaster. What’s all the fuss?

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Domestic Bliss, the second scene from Housemates is available now to watch here starring the handsome Luke Hotrod and the gorgeous Chessie Kay. Annalise and Billy have a very frisky morning together in the kitchen while he’s trying to get on with some work, meanwhile Jess is upstairs feeling lonely.

Watch the explicit scene here.
Watch the soft version of the trailer here.
Watch all soft trailers on the Joybear You Tube channel here.
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How did you get in to the porn industry?
I got in to porn really gradually to be honest. I started off as an amateur model, working with hobbyist photographers. Initially I wouldn’t even do topless! Quickly I got into nude and fetish modelling. I’d work with really creative artistic photographers which I loved.
About two years ago I decided to take the step into Boy/Girl and have never looked back. I love it!

Have you ever practised with a co-star before a shoot?
“Practised”? Ha ha! No, usually it’s a case of meeting moments before we go on camera. I find the uncertainty, and spontaneity exciting.

Who’s the best male star you’ve worked with? LUKE HOTROD
Oh it’s tough to name just one, all the guys are great! I guess Luke Hotrod is especially fun.

How many scenes do you shoot in a day?
Usually just one, but sometimes up to three.

Ever had sex with anyone off set that you’ve slept with on set  – how was it different?
No, I can’t say I have. I have a boyfriend to go home to after work.

Do you ever have orgasms on set? (it must be hard to mentally engage in sex with a  camera crew watching?)
Frustratingly I am not one of those women that come’s really easily. I’m so jealous of the women that can! With the help of a good vibrator I have been known to orgasm on set though.

 Which is your best Joybear Scene and why?
Oooh, they have all been great for different reasons. I have done three scenes so far for Joybear.
The first one has a cool location. It was set in a cinema, so that was a first for me. The second scene was with Peter Oh Tool, which was a real laugh. Had a lot of fun with that one. My most recent scene was with Marc Rose, who I had worked with before. I haven’t seen the results yet, but I have a feeling it’s going to be hot!

How do you perform if you’re working with someone you don’t fancy?
Muscular tattooed guys totally do it for me, which I usually find myself working with. Its very rare that I find myself with a guy that I have no chemistry with what so ever. If I do though, I still want the scene to look hot so I’ll do all I can to make the most of the situation.

Best & Worst things about being a porn star? adreena
Best thing is getting paid to have hot sex with gorgeous men. The worst thing is creepy fan mail. But even that can be amusing.

Do you ever get recognised?
Yes from time to time. I usually I will just get an email a few days later from someone letting me know they saw me. I’ve been stopped in the street for a photo a few times though.

What do your family think about your job?
My sister is totally cool about it. She follows me on twitter. My parents know, and my Dad thinks its cool that I have thousands of fans. They don’t ask many questions though.

Do you find it hard to have a relationship with someone who understands your job? (I imagine partners must get jealous)
I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years now. Generally he is incredibly cool. He will even do some camera work for me sometimes. If something is bothering him, he’ll just be upfront about it, and we’ll talk it out. I totally admire him for how he copes with it.

Is there anything you won’t do? Where do you draw the line?
I got into the industry from a fetish background, so I’m pretty open minded when it comes to kinky stuff. However, I do draw the line at poo poo and blood sports.

In your experience what do men enjoy the most in the bedroom?
I guess it varies, but general I find they enjoy knowing your enjoying yourself. I think it’s important to be really engaging and responsive with each other.

To watch the soft trailer of Taste Scene 1 featuring Adreena visit here
To watch explicit scenes visit

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